uncovering the roots of relationship patterns

Therapy for relationship challenges

Why do the same patterns keep showing up in my relationships?


Maybe you thought this new relationship would be different, but somehow you’re back in the same arguments, saying the same things, feeling the same disconnect. Or maybe a recent family gathering stirred something familiar—an emotional heaviness you can’t quite shake. You might be grieving a breakup or loss, or just starting to notice how often the people in your life feel emotionally distant, inconsistent, or unable to meet you where you are.

You’re tired of giving more than you get, of feeling alone even when you're not, of carrying the emotional weight in your relationships.

Whatever brought you here, you may be seeing how much this is starting to affect you:

  • You replay conversations in your head, wondering if you said too much or not enough

  • When someone is upset, you jump into caretaker mode, even if it costs you

  • It feels hard to share your needs, feelings, or limits

  • Conflict feels overwhelming, so you avoid it or shut down

  • Family time leaves you drained or overwhelmed

You don’t have to keep repeating the same roles or responses. Therapy can help you understand where they come from—and begin to choose something different.

Psychodynamic therapy helps you understand Your relational templates

You can learn to connect with others in healthier and more fulfilling ways.

In psychodynamic therapy, we will create a weekly space to reflect on the deeper emotional patterns that shape how you relate to others. These patterns often form early in our lives and quietly shape how we connect, communicate, and protect ourselves in relationships.

These patterns are not random: they’re rooted in past experiences, sometimes long forgotten, that have shaped your expectations of others and of yourself. Over time, they can lead to feeling misunderstood, emotionally disconnected, or stuck in repeated cycles with the people closest to you. 

In our work together, we will explore how past experiences and relational wounds might still be influencing your present. As we begin to map out your internal world, we’ll trace these patterns back to their emotional origins, making room to feel, reflect, and rework what no longer serves you. This work can help you feel more honest, grounded and authentic.

Relationships can feel more satisfying with the support of relationally focused depth therapy

  • Uncover the underlying motives and emotions that drive your reactions

  • Interrupt unhelpful relational tendencies

  • Express your needs, feelings, and boundaries with clarity and calm

  • Ground your self-worth in an inner sense of steadiness rather than others’ approval

  • Experience more satisfying and authentic connections with family, friends, and romantic partners

Change begins when we slow down and pay attention to what’s quietly shaping your relationships. You don’t have to do that alone—let’s make sense of it together.